Let’s go back to the 90s… “Spice up your life, every boy and every girl.” Heck yeah! Maybe it dates us a bit, but the Spice Girls were on to something. Sex toys aren’t just for solo play. They can be for both males and females, hetero- and homo-sexual couples. Everyone can use a little spice in the bedroom, especially if you feel like your sex life is in a rut. But before you cringe, remember not all couple toys are considered to be kinky or 50 shades of something or another. Sure, bondage toys and sex swings are options, but most couple toys are just little helpers whose mission is to intensify pleasure for both partners. And what’s wrong with that? Let’s up the ante!
You may be hesitant about talking to your partner about introducing toys into your sex play. You may worry that they will be insulted, or think that you prefer the toys over them. Of course, talk with your partner before pulling out new toys, but the truth is that most will love sex toys. They may think using toys is adventurous – always a turn on – and all in all, they want to make us happy. Plus, let’s not forget – these toys are designed to increase their pleasure, too.
Whether your partner has a penis or vulva, consider adding toys into the mix. Even if you’re accustomed to buying toys for masturbation, buying couple’s toys can be overwhelming. That’s why we’ve put together a list of six of our favorite couple toys for you to consider.
We’re starting with a must-have for solo and couple play – the wand vibrator. This vibe is worth its weight in gold because it is easy to hold and you can literally use it on any body part on anybody. If your partner has a vulva, they can hold the wand to stimulate their clitoris while you allow your hands to explore all parts of their body. For men, focus on the area around the penis and watch him shake with excitement. Wands also come with accessories for vaginal or anal play and can be used on any and all erogenous zones.
Finger vibrators add another level of intimacy with a hands-on approach. One of our favorites, GLUVR, is designed to be worn like a glove on your forefinger and thumb, the dual vibrators at the tip of each digit can be stroked, slid, petted, pinched, or inserted in the same ways our hands might be used to enhance pleasure during sex. The foreplay possibilities are endless! You can also use the finger vibes while lying behind your partner in the spooning position, or in cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, and doggy style. There are also ones to slip onto your finger just like a ring. What did Beyonce say… if you liked it then you should put a ring on it! We couldn’t agree more 😉
If you’ve never thought about using a dildo, think again. Effective in an abundance of positions, this flexible, double-ended version can be used solo or with your lover(s) for intimate penetration (vaginal, anal, or both). This super-versatile dildo can be used for singles, twosomes, threesomes, and pegging couples. The best part? It can help you and/or your lover experience the unbelievable sensation of a double penetration orgasm. While diamonds are a girl’s best friend, these vibes can be a couple’s best friend!
Vibrating Strapless Strap-on
Experience the sexy fun of strap-on play but with added vibration and no straps at all. The bulbous end slides into your or your partner’s vagina for G-Spot thrills. You’ll keep it in place with a squeeze of your inner muscles while you use the shaft for deep, intense thrusts guaranteed to please any lover of penetration. (Pro tip: beginners may want to use a hand to help guide the strap-on as this can take strong vaginal muscles to hold in place). As you go deep, you’ll also feel raised textures targeting your clitoris for extra stimulation. Don’t forget what your high school coach always told you, practice makes perfect. You can practice squeezing those muscles anytime to prepare for playtime later. Even while sitting at your desk!!! No one has to know.
Couples Dual Vibrating Penis Ring
The couples vibrating penis ring is THE toy to get for men and women couples. A true multitasker, this ring vibe creates harder, longer erections; more powerful ejaculations; and thrilling clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Need we say more?
(Yes, please tell us how it works.)
The larger ring loops around the balls, offering stimulation and constricting some blood flow, causing the erection to stay harder longer. The smaller ring fits over the base of the penis, also making it stay harder, and features a crown of soft nubs to stimulate the vagina. With each thrust during lovemaking, the clit bumper creates clitoral stimulation with even more soft nubs. With the push of a button, the vibrations start with direct clit stimulation while at the same time causing the shaft of his penis to carry vibrations.
The Rabbit, Twin Tip, and Anal Beads
Think the more the merrier. Mix and match your toys with your partner to create even more fun at playtime. Made of high-quality silicone, this three-vibe set is great for couples.
The Rabbit delivers simultaneous stimulation to the clit and G-spot for her while you hold the vibrating end against the taint for him. Trust us when we say Anal Beads can be pleasurable for both men and women! And last but certainly not least, with the Twin Tip the possibilities are endless … use them on nipples, clit, or even place around the base of the penis during oral sex or penetration. Don’t be afraid to use your imagination 😉 We promise these toys won’t take the role of the third wheel in your relationship.
It’s been said that sex is the adult playground, so why not add toys? Couples sex toys can open up a whole new set of possibilities for getting it on. Have fun and never underestimate these two things: the power of good, quality lube and healthy communication with your partner.