If you first learned about erogenous zones from watching the TV show “Friends,” you’re not alone. Who can forget Monica sensually describing women’s seven basic erogenous zones, and Chandler being absolutely shocked learning that there are SEVEN!
Step aside Chandler, because we have news for you: there actually could be many more than seven.
We can hear Chandler now. “Can you Be any more specific?”
Yes, Chandler, we can. Read on.
Perhaps erogenous zones make good fodder because they seem so mysterious. Who isn’t interested in what turns on their partner? Knowing the areas of the body that have this heightened sensitivity to touch could make you a better lover – now that’s a life hack worth knowing, wouldn’t you say?
What is an Erogenous Zone?
By definition, an erogenous zone is any area of the human body that, when stimulated, can create a sexual response such as relaxation, thoughts of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal, and orgasm. Erogenous zones are extra sensitive due to concentrations of nerve endings in these areas.
So was Monica wrong? Not entirely. But the truth is that any part of the body can be considered to be an erogenous zone. The human body is highly sensitive to touch and experiencing sexual pleasure is different for everyone – what feels sexually arousing for one person may be repulsive for another.
And Chandler’s response wasn’t far off either because research shows that women have many more erogenous zones than men. Why are we not surprised 😉
When talking about erogenous zones, most people immediately think about the usual suspects, such as the breasts, nipples, clitoris, and G-spot. However, there are many areas on our bodies that have fewer nerve endings but can still be erogenous, depending on the way in which they are touched.
The only way to determine your specific erogenous zones is to spend time exploring your own body and your partner’s body. Consider it a game by discovering exactly what turns you on sexually and what you really don’t like. We are all unique in our own way.
What can we do with this knowledge? Well, for starters, we can have more satisfying sexual experiences. Focusing on these zones can help build up to a longer and stronger orgasm. It can also be especially important for people who are experiencing decreased sexual sensation to explore erogenous zones to ensure that they can still enjoy sexual pleasure and function.
Top 10 Female Erogenous Zones
Now that you know a little more about what an erogenous zone is, you may be wondering where you can find yours. Awesome! We love curiosity! Check out the chart below to learn about some of the most surprising – and not so surprising – erogenous zones for women. Thanks to our friends over at hellorory.com for the valuable information!
Your ears contain hundreds of sensory receptors inside, and the outside skin is also very sensitive. Because of this, it’s best to be gentle when stimulating the ears. Have your partner lightly trace the outside of your ear, and then move in to kiss and nibble the earlobes. You might also enjoy whispering or soft blowing in order to get that tingly, goosebumps feeling.
The Nape of Your Neck
Most people focus on the throat when things get heated, but the nape or back of the neck is another hot zone. Depending on the position, it can be difficult for your partner to reach the nape of your neck with their lips, but a light touch with the tip of their fingers can feel amazing. They can stimulate the sensitive nerve endings with light caresses while kissing, and run their fingernails down the back of your neck to produce a tingly shiver.
This one may not be too shocking, but many women automatically disregard the butt if they know they don’t enjoy anal play. Don’t knock it till you try it! There’s no need to shy away from the behind just because you associate it with full-on penetration. Having your partner caress the outside skin or even doing some light fingering is a great way to take advantage of the numerous sensitive nerve ends inside your anus. Some women even enjoy gentle licking!
Think about it: Your fingertips are one of the most sensitive areas of your body. Though we don’t usually think about fingers as being sexy, holding hands or softly tickling the fingertips during sex is both erotic and intimate. To kick it up a notch, your partner can tenderly suck on each of your fingers, one at a time. Maintaining eye contact is essential here in order to fully feel the attention being lavished on you.
Your Lower Back
The nerves in the small of your back, or sacrum, are connected to your pelvis, making this region sensitive to sexual stimulation. Whether it’s the tickle of a light touch or more forceful pressure, many women find this type of sensory play appealing. If you want to get creative with it, try experimenting with temperatures using an ice cube or heat pad.
Your Inner Wrists
This sensitive pulse point can be a great way to get the action started. Lightly caress the skin of the inner wrist to get your partner going, and later on, this can progress to kissing and soft licking. Part of the appeal with this zone is the “danger” factor: your partner has taken command of one of your most vulnerable areas.
That’s right, the armpits are an erogenous zone! There’s nothing like a little titillation to take the action from silly to sexy. Think about how responsive and ticklish your armpit is — this can be translated into sexual sensitivity. Start with light touching, and slowly accelerate into brisker motions. The feeling of being tickled but also aroused can be thrilling.
The scalp is chock-full of nerve endings — just think about how nice it feels when someone plays with your hair. While kissing, your partner should run their fingernails through your hair and along your scalp to stimulate that tingly feeling. Focusing on the nape of the neck or the back of the ears while doing this can be a super hot way to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at once.
This is an area that you can take advantage of by yourself or with a partner. The key to this erogenous zone is teasing. It’s so close to the danger zone that touching this area can actually promote the flow of blood to your clit and vagina. Light, teasing touches with your partner’s tongue and fingertips are the best ways to stimulate this erogenous zone, along with temperature play using an ice cube or cold washcloth.
Just like Ted claims about Robin in How I Met Your Mother, having your partner stimulate the back of your knee can actually be super sexy. Again, this has to do with the sensitivity of the region and how ticklish it is. Have your partner massage your legs during foreplay, paying special attention to the back of your knee using both their fingers and tongue.
Which ones of these surprised you? Which ones had you smirking thinking about the last time you were touched there? Remember, these secondary erogenous zones – those that are not directly involved with intercourse – change from person to person, and you’ll only know what you like and what your partner likes by testing things out. Sounds like a fun night in!