Vibe. Battery Operated Boyfriend. Dildo. Bullet. Rabbit.
No matter what you call it, say the word “vibrator” and most of us think of a penis-like buzzing thing that lives in the top drawer of our nightstand. And while a vibrator is a common type, there really are many types of sex toys on the market, some that vibrate and some that do not; some that are meant to penetrate and some that are not; some that have really cute names and some that will scare the sh*t out of you.
So where do we start?
For the sake of this conversation, let’s stick with toys that vibrate… hence, the term vibrator. There are many types of vibrators out there, so how do you know what to spend your money on? The truth is every vibrator is meant to give you pleasure, so you can’t really go wrong. But choosing the right one for you really depends on what type of pleasure you are looking for.
Like a Kitten, we strive to empower women, and knowledge is power. So here is a breakdown of the seven most common types of vibrators and how to use them. As always, please use a quality lube when masturbating, clean your toys frequently, and remember that instruction manuals are your friend!
Traditional Internal / G-Spot Vibrators
This vibrator is phallic and penetrative. Some penetrative vibrators are longer than others, some are thinner than others. They can also be made from different materials such as metal or silicone. Everyone has a particular preference when it comes to the material the vibe is made from – hard or soft – but the one thing to keep in mind is choosing one that is easy to clean. Stay away from jelly-like material. While some classic vibes are more realistic-looking, all of them serve the same basic purpose: they are meant for penetration, yet the tip can easily be repurposed for targeted clitoral stimulation. As with all vibrators, internal vibrators can be used with a partner or solo. When using with a partner consider pairing the traditional internal vibrator with oral sex to enhance the experience both internally and externally!
Wand Massager
First introduced as “personal massagers” back in the ’60s, wand massagers are the OG of vibrators. And their popularity has yet to wane. You’ve seen these – they look like a microphone! As terrifying as they look, it’s their powerful, low-frequency vibrations that keep women “coming” back. Use these bad boys to externally massage on and around the genitals for arousal. The speed of satisfaction will be sure to delight. And during foreplay, they can also be used to relax muscles on any part of the body, or for Karaoke (no, not really).
Bullet / Clitoral Vibrator
Bullet vibrators are a very popular choice for beginners, so much so, they are referred to as the “starter” vibrator. Small and discreet, this bullet-shaped vibe provides focused vibration in one specific area. Bullet vibes are popular because they are straight-forward: just place the vibrator externally on your clitoris, nipples, or anal opening. Start with light pressure and increase if and when you need more. Bullets can also be used with your partner… think about pairing it with a cock ring for added pleasure with your partner. Every woman needs a bullet to be able to throw in her purse or pocket for instant satisfaction anywhere. Consider it your very own Polly Pocket, you will be ready to play at a moment’s notice.
Rabbit / Combination Vibrator
Rabbit style vibes are the multi-taskers of the vibrator world. The dual tip creates vaginal penetration as well as external clitoris stimulation. This particular vibrator helps achieve maximum climax by targeting both areas at the same time. Once you’ve positioned each part, set the speed and intensity, hold it in your hand, and let it work its magic. These particular vibrators are great laying down, but most are waterproof; therefore, they make amazing shower companions that are sure to never disappoint.
Suction Vibrators
These vibrators do exactly as their name suggests: they simulate a sensation of pulling and sucking—similar to how it may feel when someone goes down on you. Suction vibrators are new to the scene but making a big splash! Place the hollowed hole attached to it directly over your clitoris or nipples. It uses suction to stimulate versus vibration. The suction cup arouses the area so the toy doesn’t require a ton of pressure. Adjust the vibration level and intensity to your liking as you continue to explore this new sense of excitement. These vibrators can be really fun, but it’s all about getting it in the right position. You may need to play around with it to find your sweet spot.
Wearables Including Rings, Panties and Other Goodies
Wearable vibrators are also known as remote-controlled vibrators. This is one of the most underrated toys in the closet. The variation of pulses, vibrations, and speeds are controlled typically via a downloadable app on a phone or smart device—and in some cases, remotes. Wearables can be so much fun, especially with couples who are apart. Use depends on which wearable you choose, but typically the bulbous end inserts into the vagina, while the neck sits between the lips hugging the device in place to end at the head of the clitoris. Just a tip to get you started: if you plan to wear one outside the bedroom (which we highly recommend), find a wearable that is discreetly quiet so that you can find pleasure anywhere! Who says making dinner has to be boring?
Anal Plug / Bead Vibrators
Yes, we’re talking about butt plugs, and yes… we are entering a territory unknown to many women. Ladies, vibrators are no longer just for your clitoris! The anus is surrounded by nerve endings ready for stimulation. So now that we have your attention, how does it work? Relaxation is key. Slowly and gently, insert the flared base while using lots of silicone or water-based lube. The lube is a must because unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubricant. If the pressure is too much, start with your fingers and build up to the toy. By creating more pressure on the back of the vaginal wall, the butt plug increases the level of sensation causing orgasms to feel WAY more intense. (Crucial Tip: Did you know your rectum acts as a vacuum? Therefore, it’s vital you choose a butt plug that has either a flared bottom, pull cord, or ring to prevent an embarrassing visit to the ER).
So there you have it. Just know that in the end, finding the perfect vibrator is a journey. We promise that vibrators are not one-size-fits-all. But once you find your match… you will know. Enjoy the ride.